I don’t subscribe to life, executive or business coaching; it’s just coaching using different skills to enable a person to solve an issue or problem.
This is a short version of how coaching can help a professional in life. A former colleague, Steve manages a paediatric intensive care. I noticed one day a horrific car accident that Steve had been in and he posted a picture his car on Facebook.
Steve’s car was a right off, and he was lucky to walk away from the accident. I messaged him to say he may suffer a bit of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and if he wanted I could help him. That same day he said the accident was not a problem but he did suffer flashbacks to a rugby game where a teammate had died. Here is his brief account….
“For several years I had been suffering from low-level PTSD following an incident where I had to resuscitate a good friend who suffered a cardiac arrest, and subsequently died, on the rugby pitch beside me: Every few weeks I would experience intrusive thoughts and replay the events of that day in my head.
I asked Ian if he could help me and we spent a couple of hours at his office talking through my memories of the incident. Ian was clearly skilled and experienced; I felt entirely comfortable talking about the problems I had been experiencing, which I hadn’t felt able to share with anybody else in my life.
The single most helpful thing Ian did was ask me to think about the event from my friend’s perspective and ask what he would say to me now if he could. This was something I had never thought about, and I realised that my friend would have thanked me for trying to help him, and would be very upset that I was still being affected by the incident.
The impact was immediate and quite remarkable, from that moment on whenever I am reminded of my late friend I think about him in a positive light, and with a smile. I will always be grateful to Ian for his help, and how he put me back on track in just a single session.”
Dr. Steve Playfor
What happened? I took Steve through several steps, building deep rapport, establishing his values and motivation for change. Carefully we went through a process to replace the overwhelming guilt with positive thoughts, unlocking the barrier from irrational to rational thoughts.
Many Thanks to Steve for writing his events of that morning.